pammie
I'm sorry your mom is that way towards you--- mine is very much the same.

When I've had illnesses she's found ways to blame me for them--- like when I had gestational diabetes it was my fault because I was too thin before I got pregnant. I don't understand either how a mother can seem to care so little..... I will never be to my kids the way she has been to me-- and it sounds like you aren't like your mom either-- that's something that you can feel good about yourself for.

Through the years I've learned to converse with her like a distant aunt-- it's hard because I would love to have someone to lean on- a real mom. Like now when I'm struggling with issues with my boys and my marriage--- I know she's not ever been there for me and never will be.

After my dad passed away-- 14 years ago-- I called her a couple times a week to check on her as she was living in the house alone--- one day she told me, if she needs me SHE will call ME...... I got the "message" and to this day I rarely call her-- not even if things are falling apart for me.

But hey-- I'm here listening and I understand, so if you want a shoulder to lean on -- post anytime-- K?

pammie-