I didn't get my first car till 40!!

Always lived in cities w/buses and transit until recently.

Abandonment issues? oh yeah. it gets better, but half the battle is being able to talk about it.

Are you sure you can't write T a letter?

if not, are there any Meetup groups you can get to that are supportive? (i'm not a 12 step fan myself but I know agnostics and atheists who use what is useful and disregard the rest)