Imagine your unhappy female friend came to you and told you that her boyfriend had a huge drinking problem, was nasty to her, was verbally abusive and not only didn't apologise when he was sober, but to blame her reaction for the problems it caused. What would you say to her?

I think that's the best advice I can give you because there is no advice to get through to him. Please respect yourself and not settle for second best.. as alcohol comes first. All the love and will in the world will not help him when he takes no responsibility. Sorry to read what you're going through, I know it seems such a shame to lose the good times but they will keep fading away the longer this goes on without him helping himself.

Wish you the best whatever you decide to do.