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That neediness can become overwhelming I know. It does start to ebb and flow like the tides with therapy. My T has let me crawl in his lap(symbolically) when that neediness has come up and then watches me as I am able to go off on my own but always lets me know he is there for me(he has proved that over and over). That knowing he is there for me has eased my fear of him abandoning me which in return eases that aching neediness. Well he/we also talks to that needy part to try and understand what it needs and how we can help it not feel so needy.
Is your T like that?
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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