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Originally Posted by boredporcupine
My general rule of thumb is that whatever is going on in the present in your relationship with your T is the most important thing to talk about.
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Thanks, bp. T usually asks me how I'm feeling right now!
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
A T session without an agenda can be very productive. It can help build the T relationship.
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Thank you. That's true sometimes but it can backfire also. I don't need to build up the T relationship anymore; I need to start separating from my T.
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Originally Posted by growlycat
sounds like if you don't discuss #4, it will nag at you all week.
Any other topic may just be skirting the biggest issue
(for example, the email discussion really IS about #4 when you think about it
Hugs!
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Thank you, growly. You're probably right.
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Originally Posted by sweepy62
i always go with a list of things i want to discuss but its hard when we only get an hour because one topic can take an hour and go into the next session lol
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Thanks, sweepy. Yes, there is never enough time in a session. Sigh. Even with 90 minutes.
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Originally Posted by Asiablue
How would it be to go in without an agenda? Let her lead and see where it takes you.
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Lots of times I have no agenda and she will want to do SE about how I'm feeling at the moment in the room with her. I suppose I can do that but the feelings from last week are gnawing at me. I think I have to at least tell them to her.
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
An interesting experiment. But T might refuse to lead.
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My T won't refuse.
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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
I'd imagine it would be helpful to at least mention each of those points and then pick the first couple that come to mind at the time that are the greatest priority - and then give yourself a time limit to discuss each. Even if you don't get to the rest, the idea of mentioning it at least has it "out there" which may relieve some the anxiety of not being able to get to it.
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I think I have to do that. I find it almost impossible to set time limits on subjects, though. Then I feel like I didn't "finish" anything.
I got up too early and I'm tired. That doesn't help.
I don't think my allergy pill worked or else I forgot to take it. Yuk. At least T didn't cancel my appointment. I always check online first thing.