When he said "is this business Anna" and wondered why he doesn't see more of that side of you, I can understand his point of view. I do not think his implication was that it was the better side of you but that there is some amount of control you have when you're in your "work mode". Although it may be extreme and you put on a "face" to be productive and get along, I see how there is an element of that "acting" that is something you can use. You don't want to go all the way and always be in "acting" mode in your personal life nor do you want to be all emotional and let loose in that manner in the work force place either. There's some of both sides that need to come together for you to feel whole. I hope this makes sense.

~S4