Thanks Ham-bam! This is exactly my husband. I think he is definitely mind-blinded. This is one of our biggest issues! Although he doesn't admit to this, but he hardly ever (I can't remember a time in 12 yrs. being married) when he could see the destructive intentions of his ex wife. She is down right horrible to him yet the saga goes on. It's like counselors have told him to be aware of her intentions given her history and it never fails to be proven time after time and each of her attempts is worse than the one before. His inability to see this causes so much problems for us. When I try to gently mention this to him, he gets defensive. It's like he's ok with what she does to us. As if my husband can't see what the world sees.

Also, he is very emotionally disconnected. I can't connect with him and I'm usually a very personable person. A person my friends and even strangers feel comfortable talking to me about their issues... I don't solicit it, it's just being able to tell when someone is hurting and they need an ear. My husband doesn't get this. He blames me for his lack of ability to open up, yet he has been this way from the start.

There are other symptoms that I've witnessed through the years and it's all been a mystery to me because my husband is extremely successful at work, however he can't have a personal deep connection. Geez...it goes on and on. I think he's had his life to perfect the cover up of the true him.