Dr Cher, You have given me food for thought. Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I'm sure my mom has had her fair share of being wounded but I cannot see that right now.

My mom is responsible for many of my wounds ever since I was born. I know I am responsible for myself now. Even though I am in my 40's, I can truly say that my denial system has been stong up until the incident I described with the skin cancer. In all my years, I have never realized so crystal clear, how my mom feels about me. I know I should figure out a way to have a relationship with her but I'm not ready to do that yet. I am still processing the whole thing. I'm just so damm sad about it. I just have to be where I am right now. I'll figure out what to do in time.

How can mothers be like this?