He raised an issue between two group members who were meeting outside of group. Meeting with group members outside of group is discouraged for a number of reasons, but if it happens, we are to bring the main points of the contact back into the group to keep the group cohesive and whole.

The issue between the two members was discussed....and at one point, another group member chimed in about the understanding of not meeting outside of group. T said something along the lines of "group members aren't supposed to meet outside of group".

That rubbed me the wrong way. I told T that I understand that it's discouraged, but the idea of him telling me what I'm "supposed to" or "not supposed to" do doesn't sit well with me. That perhaps it's just semantics, but that statement triggered me wanting to lash out.