Once when my therapist did something that hurt me and was not in the best way I would expect a therapist to act, she responded by apologizing and then admitting that she is human and will make mistakes like everyone else.

And I said, "But I thought you were perfect." Of course, intellectually I know she's human and as prone to mistakes as anyone else, but my need then was for her to be 'perfect'.

I'm sure your T did not 'lie". In other words, her intention at the time was the truth at that time. As things evolved so did her understanding of your needs and she knew the necessity to change. We would hope that T's could be flexible and adjust to circumstances and not be held hostage to some words that, although well-intended at the time, were no longer useful.

And, we would also hope that no one else will hold us to the impossible standard that we sometimes hold our T's to.