One thing I forget to add, you mention "blanket of love." The point of therapy is to find that "blanket of love" in the real world. Even if we have crappy familyies, that "blanket" could come from friends.

I think the point of T is learning to love yourself and learning to love others... and get our needs met and meet the needs of others.

A T is a teacher, a guide... not the "blanket of love" to keep forever.
They may care about our journey, but their love is conditional on the professional relationship.

A "blanket of love" should come from others that we don't pay for their services. Real love does not come with $$ attached.