Working will help towards independence, have you thought of school? Or just taking some art classes/something that will interest you where you can meet people to just socialize with? Do not rush to try to form relationships etc, plenty of time. It sounds like you need time to find yourself right now. It is very common to not recognize how wrong things were...it is like asking a fish to describe water. I can remember when it began to dawn on my that my family was not healthy, and that I had been picked as the "problem" all along...it's painful and hard to adjust to the outside, young adult world. You are the one you need to give to for now...earning money, can also earn you distance. Take care. And keep posting.