I wanted to comment on this...

I agree with u to some extent- therapy is with the intent to find a way to fill those holes in our lives with someone in the real world. T is the one to help that process. However, I was in a residential place that too this idea very seriously. They couldn't comprehend the close relationship I had with my. They were bsolutely mind boggled. So what did they do? They cut off the relationship, blaming bad boundaries. That was the most hurtful thing I've ever been through. Therefore, I think it's a spectrum... U can either very much embrace this idea of the t relationship being strictly paid and professional, or u could look at the flip side and see that yes, although u pay for their services, most ts are very invested on a personal level in each of their clients. I think it depends on the individual t and the individual client. I do not think that's its black and white and it really depends on the individual situation and where each client is in treatment.