My girlfriend and I just broke up after a 7 month whirlwind relationship. I don't think it's completely over, but the ball is in her court. Here's a mini-recap (it sounds like a movie):

We met in Vietnam last Christmas and decided to go on a 10-day motorcycle trip through the country. Nothing happened during the trip itself, but we definitely started to like each other.

On what was supposed to be our last night in Vietnam, we shared a quick kiss in a park about an hour before a taxi was supposed to take her to the airport. In that ten seconds, someone stole her purse. Which contained both of our passports So we ended up in Vietnam for another week and fell in love.

She lives in Germany and I live in Dubai, so between January and July she's been able to spend a total of about 2 months in Dubai, and I've spent about 3 weeks in Germany.

In the beginning, everything was perfect. We skyped for hours every day and messaged in between. As time went on, she got busier (not her choice.. work and exams and stuff) and had less time for me. This made me cling to her more tightly, which in turn pushed her away.

I was supposed to spend the summer with her in Germany, but we really didn't think it through. I arrived as she was starting to cram for her final university exams. My expectations were that we would spend some great quality time together, since we hadn't seen each other in more than a month. But she was too stressed with exams to give me much time, and became even MORE stressed when I started to express my moodiness/neediness/clinginess.

Anyway, a few more things occurred and we ended up breaking up. Sorry for the long story.

I'm mostly just wondering if other BP people out there feel this clingy insecurity, and how they deal with it. I know that everyone says you need to love yourself first, be independent, blah blah blah. But I don't have a strong relationship with my family and I'm a bit of an introvert. When I get a girlfriend, she tends to become a LOT to me. I need to work on this so I don't suffocate her. And by the way, I told her about my BP a week after we met, and she bought some books about it and was incredibly supportive for the first few months. I think I just wore her out by the end.

Thanks for your thoughts,

- Daniel