I agree that it's important that your Pdoc and your T know what's going on with you so they can help you.

Also, and this is meant to be kind and not smart aleck. Generally as you may already know, folks get better care when their family members are not the ones treating them. It becomes really complicated in ways that may jeopardize both the treatment received and the relationship between the family members.

It sounds really challenging also because she is your wife and naturally you'd want her to help you as most anyone would want their spouse to help.