When I am in pain, we usually focus on that - and he basically gives me suggestions of what to do, what to try, etc. - which are usually things I've already tried, have trouble with or can't afford.

He has told me that he feels helpless, at times, and that he doesn't know when to push to do "real therapy work" (eg. trauma work) when I'm in pain. Since pain is something that I have to live with until I find a real solution, T and I have talked about doing the real work in spite of the pain.

At the moment, though, the pain is only part of the situation - feeling lifeless is the stronger component at the moment.