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What a treasure trove of feelings and thoughts you've expressed. In reading your post I see wisdom, desire, thoughtfulness, confusion, self examination, self expression and lonliness. Of it all I like "maybe we should just be friends" the most. It is the key to unlocking the mystery of this relationship. Liking and loving are not mutually inclusive. Just as you can like someone but not love them, you can love someone and not like them. (Think about family and friends.) There are times when you are not able to like or love someone. When you reach this level of ambiguity in a relationship it is time to move on, as you cut your losses. Consider removing love from your relationship equation. That may be just too strong an emotion for your situation. Create guidelines for your "friendly relationship." ie; how often and how do you communicate. What are you willing to discuss? How much time are you willing to devote to maintaining the relationship. TIP: Honor the lowest stated preference. EX; if either of you indicate you want to discontinue the relationship, honor that. STOP communicating. TIP 2: Focus on yourself. The greatest relationship you will ever develop is with yourself. Learn who you are and what you want to enjoy your life. You can do this, seek help if you want it.
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M.M.
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