I know for me it has been huge that when I feel something major has happened I manage to tell her and give her the chance to respond. Sometimes it has been my perception, sometimes she's simply got things wrong, very wrong on occasions, but learning to forgive and then live with this in the relationship has been good for me. People screw up. It happens in life and it is much easier to walk away, but learning not to has been very valuable for me. The realtionship is never quite thensame again, but i think it can still be good, probably a bit more realistic. On the other hand it has also been valuable to work out when people are hurting me and to be able to walk away. To tell the difference between what is unhealthy and what are just mistakes.