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Jul 24, 2013, 05:19 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 1,486
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Quote:
Originally Posted by peaches100
I wanted to reply to something Scoriopsis said:
If I focused too much on the love I get from my T, I think that would detract from the reciprocal kind of love I get from my best friend, my dad, my sister, my other friends, and the women I date.
Although I agree with the gist of what you said, not all of us are as fortunate as you are in having friends, family, and romantic others who freely give youthe love you need. Some posterds here don't have close friends or romantic partners, and their family is anything but supportive. For those who only have support from a t, it can be very necessary to feel cared about or even loved--at least for a time.
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But if you don't have that IRL and a therapist attempts to fulfill/replace the needs and wants that would otherwise be provided by people IRL, would this not *potentially* lead someone to not seek this in IRL because they already have it? Does this not potentially take away the motivation (and freedom, in a way) to do this?
If you don't have it, why go out and seek it if you have it in your therapist? But since the therapist isn't always going to be there (and as has been shown on the forum, at times, may not always give the same amount of themselves down the road), then maybe not getting all of this from one's therapist can help *encourage* people to at least seek it elsewhere, as hard as it can be to find sometimes?
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