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Originally Posted by littledolly
I dont know what to my boyfriend always in a mood, he accuses me of cheating or doing something I havent. When he gets like this he tells me hes board of the relationship, doesnt love me, calls me a skank, slut, cow etc... Packs his stuff amd then after a while he doesnt go anywhere. Hes broken my door, called me hurtful names but yet he wants to marry me. He causes arguments and I havent done anything at all wrong. He blames it down to he wants a baby but I believe it his cannabis addiction. When I try to talk to him he walks off, says hes off to bed or puts a pillow over his head. When I mention hes hurting me he says oh yeah all my fault isnt it always my fault. He puts words in my mouth and makes me out to say things I havent. I just dont no what to do
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For starters, don't have a child with him! That will leave you susceptible to more antics than the ones you've listed.
*Accusations
*saying he's bored of the relationship
*Name calling
*causes arguments
*blaming
*possible addiction(s)
*ignoring you
*says it all your fault, no accepting personal responsibility
*putting words in your mouth
Clearly, he doesn't sound like someone who is working through their own personal baggage and trying to become a better human being. Clearly, selfish, in the sense that you are the scapegoat for whatever pain or disorder(s) lies beneath the surface.
Doesn't sound like a loving, respecting relationship. Love is more than illusion. It takes two people, who are willing to work together to creating a functioning relationship, and if that includes sorting out ones own self, then that's what it includes.
You, can only give what you can give. Stress of not being met halfway in life, and name calling and all the other things from the above list will wear a person down. And is that what you want? It's true, we can't change another. And this bf of yours, sounds like he needs to change. You can change yourself. But to what will you change yourself to?
Do you really not know what to do?
