You've gotten some great feedback, rainbow.

As far as the idea that Ts lie and manipulate...As my T and I were working through our rupture, I told T that I felt manipulated by him. He said, "We always manipulate. That's what therapy is" or something along those lines. It doesn't necessarily have to be a negative thing. It's taking a course of action for a purpose in order to get a certain result. It's hard for me to see that T's responses to me are "just a strategy"....but I try to separate that from his caring.