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Originally Posted by elliemay
This is true I think, at not at all "wrong". Where I think the trouble can start is if/when the client seeks to find love/support only from the therapist, at the exclusion of all others.
I can honestly say that I felt love from another person for the first time in my life from my therapist. It was unbelievable. However, a pivotal moment came when I was able to internalize that love and carry it out into my life.
Those feelings may be necessary, but they can't be sufficient.
Also, I no longer see that therapist, but that love is still there. The physical presence isn't, but we still share a very powerful connection and always will.
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Yes! My T says I can internalize the love and caring she gives me. Actually, she never uses the word "love", but caring. I do internalize it because I know she's with me everywhere. I feel it, and no one will ever be able to take that away from me.
Thanks, elliemay.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
People post for different reasons. Not all responses resonate with all posters. Not everyone is looking to have themselves spoken about in the third person or for advice from people who are critical. Some people are looking for advice, but not everyone. I do not look for advice, for example. I like to read about how others see themselves in therapy. I don't really care what others think about me in therapy.
Sometimes posting is done to help the poster work something out rather than for advice. I am not saying people should not post what they want, but I do think it is unrealistic to expect that just because one person finds one post useful, that everyone, or even the original poster will do so. Regardless of how much it resonates with some, it will not, and in my opinion, is not even probable for it to be expected to resonate or be useful for everyone.
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Thanks, stopdog. Even though I don't understand you, you seem to understand me,
and I'm grateful for that. I think I use my threads to work things out for myself, and to be validated. I'm not so much looking or wanting all my T's faults spelled out in black and white. It's not useful for me. I was sharing my anger and hurt about my T's lying, but I can forgive her. It was a way to process my feelings, not ask for her to be criticized about how she conducted all of my therapy. I can't solve my problem of wanting to post, but not wanting to be criticized.
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Originally Posted by Michelle25
Thanks Mixed Emotions, if I had known that therapy was just lies, strategy and manipulation, I would never have bothered. I've never been more hurt in my life. You don't play with peoples feelings. That's my belief. I sure know better now than to trust another T again. It's not for me. I'd rather be.....
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I'm sorry, Michelle. I don't believe that therapy is all lies, strategy and manipulation. I do think therapy is not for everyone but I also think that most Ts CAN be trusted and I'm sorry you couldn't trust yours.