I don't know really. Um i guess I mean that I extend friendship and would do anything for someone but deny them any part of my life. An example would be I had a friend and I went to her place and my kids played with her kids and I looked after her kids but all this happened at her place as I don't like other people into my house. If she had waited another year maybe i would have felt comfortable but she withdrew the friendship before that without me giving a chance to explain and lets face it to a normal person saying that I don't like people in my home sounds just a tad mad, don't you think? I didn't even like the in-laws being there (but they WERE hard to please)