Good for you for working in the right direction and recognizing and knowing what is and isn't healthy and Congratulations on taking care of your family! I hear you...it is very difficult to disconnect from our parents of origin, especially when that yearning comes in. If it's any solace, everyone has a mother yearning, it is how we are made up. It just gets crazy when we are from abusive homes and we still hang on to that yearning. Remember, your mother is only capable of so much and that is it! She may not have done too well, but not every female is suited to be a mother, like you. I wish you well in your quest to disconnect. One day you will find that it does not have the power and pull over you that it does today. You are loved!

Brookester