its an honour to help. it really is.

i have one more thing to say on the matter. i was thinking about it last night after i replied to your post and i had a kind of phrase in my head that i thought id like to share, maybe it will help you understand your husbands situation. i will word it best i can:

your husband, being hetrosexual, is comfortable having friendly banter with people, both men and women. he is happy doing so and it isnt classed as flirting or as a come on. but if he has this banter with a gay or bisexual man, that man could assume and interpret it as flirting, and because they are gay, they think your husband is coming on to them. so they advance and flirt with mike. so mike likes the attention, but he sees it as friendly banter back, so he enjoys it and continues to have the banter. allt he while it is giving the gay or bisexual man the message that mike is coming on to them when in actual fact all he is doing is have friendly banter which is being interpreted as flirting. which it is to a certain extent but nothing threatening to your marriage. do you see what i mean?

simon