I would like to trust that a T would be doing things that are in the best interest of the client but also within their own limitations. If they're grossed out by something, they shouldn't do it - unless it is a basic requirement of therapy (for example, not allowing the patient to talk about something important that may trigger the T).

If the T allowed hand-holding, then I would wish that the T wasn't repulsed by it. And if the T were to take it away, I would hope that it was due to them believing that it was no longer helpful to the client.

It's just not something I would want for me. For a long time, though, I fantasized about hugging T - after seeing him hug a client after their final group session. I was envious...never talked to him about it...and it took about 3-1/2 years to finally get that hug. But it was something he wanted to give and I was happy to receive because of a huge accomplishment. Not just because I wanted it.