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Old Jul 25, 2013, 09:05 AM
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If I repeatedly tell my T that I want to run my fingers through his hair and his natural response is "Ick.", he is totally, as a human being, entitled to that opinion. He's also completely allowed to tell me not to touch him. Saying I can't touch him is not taking anything out on me, it is protecting himself from unwanted touching. He doesn't have to be grossed out, he's allowed to tell me not to touch him for any reason he wants. It is his body. I have no right to rail against that just because he is at work and I am paying for his time.
I don't think "entitlement" or "right" comes into it. But that is just how I approach it.
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