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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
Stopdog, you continue to confuse me. You often disagree with me and quite strongly. When I or someone else disagrees with another's person behavior or things they say, you tell me to avoid criticizing and just move on. Why am *I* or Wikid or whoever not allowed to tell someone I am bothered by their statement or behavior when you seem fine with others including yourself disagreeing so strongly with me and even engaging in name calling (not you but others).
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I apologize if I have ever name-called. I do not recall doing such.
I do not believe I have told anyone how they do therapy is wrong nor do I know what is right or wrong as an absolute. If you are comfortable criticizing how others are with their therapist, then have at it. I object to the concept that someone else can know anything absolute about another. I try to couch my language in it being how I see things = not that the other person is wrong in a vacuum. You are completely allowed to do whatever fits with your internal moral code. I may not agree with it. I have not told you to do or not to do anything - I have suggested it is possible for posters to not criticize others who they do not agree with and just move on to someone else. I have also suggested that it seems to me to become upset when criticism is not met with open arms of happiness and joy or cries of thank you - is, in my opinion, perhaps having an unrealistic view of how helpful such criticism is - if being helpful is even the real goal. I don't think much of the criticism I read here about how others do therapy is on track or useful or anything other than the criticiser's own issues coming into play, but that is just me. I do not want to engage with a therapist the way most people here do, but I would not tell them they are wrong for doing so the way they do it.
I have never intended to tell you or anyone else how you had to be, nor have I intended to attack you. But I do not have a problem with me defending that someone else can be how they are or how they post here, without fear of attack, regardless of how I feel about their underlying situation or approach.
My sensitivities coming into play - I always thought my brother was an idiot(I am not saying I think anyone else on this forum is an idiot -this is just an example), but I would defend him against my parents even to my peril because he got to be an idiot if he wanted.
So, in conclusion - I am not trying to tell you what to post or not. I throw in where I feel others are beating up on someone. But in general if you feel moved to do so, I am not really trying to stop you.
"I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it"