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Originally Posted by sunrise
I just have so many issues to talk about in therapy that I don't want to spend a good part of sessions talking about him and me. I think he would be open to talking about our relationship more if I wanted to, but I pay 100% out of pocket for my sessions and I need to make progress on my issues, not talk all the time about how close we are!
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Sunrise, this isn't at all the transference experience I'm talking about. The resolution of the transference, for me, provided the frame through which to heal the pain of FOO abuse that couldn't seem to be healed in any other way. The idea, like Wikid mentioned, of transference being like an extra burden to deal with (and pay for!) may be how it's most often talked about on PC (generally as a romantic/erotic thing), but that wasn't my experience at all.
I don't think transference is something to be inserted into therapy; if it's there, it's there for a reason connected to the crucial issues, and if it's not, there's no need to somehow produce it!
