I would not like to be in that situation, mona. Interesting though, the way you put it, "on my own and dependent. . ." Here you are living at home and saying you can't leave your abusive mom but you also only see living elsewhere but being depending on your T as the alternative?

If your mother is abusive, for me, working to get out on my own would make sense and would probably help with the relationship further as I would not be so close so constantly. I had difficulties with my stepmother and moving out was helpful and scary, difficult, lonely, all the things it has to be being a new experience, given who I was at the time. The goal is to learn to live one's own life and I don't think that can happen all one way or all another.

I'd tell T what you think :-) and talk about it, tell her what she said and how adamant about it she was upset you and you wish she could help you see other alternatives that you might not be able to see because of your inexperience? Tell her it feels like you are driving her to/from extremes of cutting off your mother but then having no one but her.