Your t is right. My t's said the same thing and they were right. It's not that the t's want us to be dependent on the personally but professionally, which though in a t's case is rather personal just because of the situation. But they're just looking for us to be independent of our parents, and properly interdependent on other adults. Including them at the beginning.

Looking back, I can see how I always held myself back financially to be in the exact spot I was in growing up (if that makes sense). I didn't know any other way. And it was too scary emotionally to learn any other way. Do you have any goals? Aside from going to school. That is a big one. Maybe it would help to set some small ones. Just to learn to become an independent goal-oriented person. I used to perform my assignments at work, but it seems that is all I accomplished in life. I was too tired for anything else. Well, work and therapy. That is my goal. To start setting goals!