MKAC,

I don't usually read too many posts off the couch. But this below was very helpful for me to know when I'm reading your responses...

"In the past, I have tried to be clear that I am responding to tell the poster how *I* felt when treated in the manner in which they are treating others. "

I'm not saying you didn't make it clear because I'm conflict avoidant so I may not be able to process any posts that seem like it may result in conflict... But this makes it easier to understand because its outside of a conflict situation....

Hearing other peoples reactions to different experiences has helped me to see the "other side of the coke can" because what may be upsetting to you may not impact me at all and vice versa... and it doesn't make either person's experience "right" just different.

ETA: and I'm not just saying that to avoid conflict