After reading this I realize that a long time ago we were talking on the couch I think about playing with kids and what is perfectly fun and acceptable to one family... sent chills down the spines of some of us only because of our experience...

For instance, I was tickle tortured as a child so let me tell you if you tried to tickle one of my kids you might not see the fist coming at you in time... It is not allowable or acceptable for anyone to tickle my kids...

But I know that is my reaction to something that I had done to me and is not a universal thing for other people... so I wouldn't feel it necessary if someone was talking about mildly tickling their child and how the kid was smiling and enjoying it for me to tell them what a horrible experience I had as a child because its not everyone's situation.

Now if someone was talking about tickling a child till they couldn't breath or vomitted or something then I might want to chime in that it isn't a good idea to do that.

But I also wouldn't expect that someone should have to change their behavior because of my experience ....

anyway I'm babbling now...