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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
In the case of abuse, I have been clear in laying out potential consequences of actions or failures to act. Still not the same thing as telling someone what they must do.
I read your comments differently from this. I may have misunderstood
Also, is it only criticism of how a person does therapy that is off limits to you? Perhaps that is the distinction that I have been missing.
I think it is an important distinction. But for me, not the only one
This is one of those things that we will always disagree on. An action or inaction that directly results in harm to an innocent animal or person is an absolute wrong for me. I feel silence in the face of actions or inactions that seem certain to harm an innocent is an absolute wrong. What is that quote? All that is necessary for evil to prevail is for good people to say nothing.
Animals are more my soft spot than other human beings. But the trouble I have with a forum such as this, is that one does not really know. I think you and I may consider what is and is not evil differently and I think you have more of a sense of certainty in this area than I do except in relatively rare situations for me
Again, I am often trying to help or get the other person to see how their actions are possibly impacting others by offering my experience. I do not see that as criticism necessarily. Sometimes it is, and in those cases, I do not expect it to be welcomed with open arms, but I also do not expect the attacks from the periphery about being harsh or whatever when I have clearly stated that this is MY experience with those same actions.
How is what others are doing different from what you are doing to the original poster? It may be, I am just asking. As for getting another poster to consider how their actions are impacting others in their real life, I think this is an area where we are going to disagree
That would be my point here, I suppose. I do feel attacked fairly often when I try to respond to people, even in just sharing my experiences or offering a statement about why another person may have responded in the manner they did.
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Perhaps I misunderstand you when you post in certain ways. It is possible I am responding to the delivery of the information rather the information itself. Sometimes I see things delivered in what I consider to be a harsh manner to others, and then an upset or harsh reaction from you when those others object. Again, it is certainly possible I have misunderstood the dynamics.
It is not like I think I understand how to engage with others. I am not one to jump in and reassure others that they are liked, or go aww at pictures of baby animals, or children and such. I don't object to such things, but I have no particular response to them. I am baffled at any number of things others find reassuring and comforting as well as what others think of to do in order to be those things. So, in perspective, I could be wrong about my interpretation about all other human interaction except that which is mine.