I actually had a very well meaning family member tell me that she thought it was a "spiritual tear". I at first was internally reactive to that and annoyed, but then I thought about it...sometimes well intended people say or think uneducated things...I know i have said/done my fair share over time, unfortunately. One cannot have knowledge of all things. So as long as the comments are made in non-malicious ways, I use it as an opportunity to help them understand my point of view better and that (i hope) paves the way for less uneducated things to come out of their mouths in the future.

If people are just being jerks...well that is a whole 'nuther story...i just don't have time for that!