It can be helpful and inspiring to hear other people's experiences, and we can certainly learn from others - this forum is a great example of that. However... going through the same or similar chain of events to someone else doesn't mean the experience is going to be the same. You can't necessarily change because someone else has been in the 'same' position and tells you what to do to get through it or fix it - maybe they went through the same thing, maybe they only think they did... In some cases you can be told the same thing over and over, you can see the logic in it, you can understand it, but it doesn't mean you 'get' it or experience it, or that it clicks into place for you right then or maybe at all... Sometimes it is not intellectual information we need, but for something inside to somehow shift, to make change possible. Knowing something isn't the same as feeling something.