I don't think people necessarily read it as such. There were a couple of requests for clarification (in case you have not read it yet). There are mistakes, and there are MISTAKES. We all differ in our tolerance level for and how we define those things. I will tolerate things from my current T that I would not tolerate in a new relationship. I actually thought about posting a thread about thoughts I was having that the exact same action by a T being incredibly harmful for one client and incredibly healing and helpful for another. So an action that would be a huge mistake for my T to do with me, to make might be the exact thing another person needs to heal.