Jen I think we covered this in the other thread about this same issue...

maybe we didnt explain it right....

try something for me...

think about your best friend, your sister or brother or someone else that you know..

pick something you like to eat that they dont like and pick something they like that you dont eat...

maybe you like hamburgers and your friend likes liver.

now imagine you and this other person have to live in the same body..

when you are in control of the body you make hamburgers for dinner and when your friend is in control of the body the friend makes liver. you have no control over what she cooks and eats and she has no control over what you cook and eat. she cant make any decisions when you are in control of the body and you cant make any decisions when she is in control of the body. all you can do is either not know what she is doing or you know what she is doing but all you can do is watch and listen or maybe you can listen but not watch or watch and not hear....

thats what having DID is like....when alters are in control of the body the host has no control the alters live their own lives have their own jobs, purposes reasons for being.

there is no giving consent, there is no conscious choice making.

sometimes after years and years of treatment some people learn how to communicate with their alters, and the alters them but its still a situation where when the alters are in control of the body they make all the decisions and when the host is in control the host has all the decision making power. some take into consideration what their alters need and want but if it goes against what the host believes in then they are not going to consent to having sex against their will..basically having sex against your will is called rape...to put it bluntly no one I know who has DID and was raped would ever give consent to having sex when they are not in control. victims of sexual abuse are more apt to saying no not saying yes to sex when not in control.