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Old Jul 26, 2013, 03:14 AM
LilMissMichael LilMissMichael is offline
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Wow! I wasn't expecting this many replies.
I'm going to try and wrap up everything I want to say in one (or probably two, chances are i'll post this and notice another thing I should comment on) message as opposed to various replies.

Sorry about the way I worded that, I really didn't realise you could take it that way. Pretty much, I can blab on about something very easily.. I was trying to contain myself from too much explanation. I skipped over the background info (Pretty much, the information about my boyfriend) very quickly, I didn't want to draw the attention from the situation. That probably didn't make sense... Anyway this is what I meant..

I know he's human, he has his flaws. But he is the perfect boyfriend, I don't mean what I see in the comments. My error, I should have been more clear. I mean that I couldn't have asked for more, he treats me right, he makes me happy, he can always make me smile even when don't want to. He has his imperfections, doesn't everyone? But I don't look at them as imperfections, If I had the choice I wouldn't change them.
He's real, he's down to earth. Yes, to me, he is perfect.. perfectly imperfect (for those who don't think people are perfect). Nobody's perfect, I know that.
I can't remember all the things said in the comments I read, but I remember someone saying the relationship sounded shallow. I don't know why exactly you're saying that, but when I think of shallow I automatically think about the idea of someone being with someone because of their looks as opposed to their personality. I want to point out that that's not at all true. Yes, I think he's extremely attractive, but I fell for his personality. No, it's not shallow in the thought that we don't communicate (I didn't know exactly how to word that).. We are very close and trust each other. Yes, I idolise him. No, I do not treat him like a celebrity (best way I could think to describe it). I idolise him for what he's been through, his approach towards life, his goals/priorities and the way he treats me. Is there really anything wrong with thinking your partner is just great? I like to describe my feelings and honestly I do feel that way. I see his imperfections.. he may not actually be perfect, but he's pretty damn close. I know that not everyone thinks that! But do you scrutinize a parent when they think the world of their child? I'm just using that example to say that everyone is different, and if they have someone good in their life, what's wrong with using the word 'perfect'. To the comment that said something about me having to see him as normal (sorry, I can't remember exactly!) I couldn't do that. I mean, I understand he's human, but he'll always be more than 'normal' to me. Could you think of the one you love as just 'normal'?

My last 'boyfriend' did threaten and blackmail me, so yeah, this one is pretty damn good!

I really didn't think people would take it that way, I was just trying to stress how much he means to me without going overboard with the word count!

With the bleeding platelet metaphor, are you saying you're pointing out the reason for these feelings? Are you saying he is the reason for this? I've suffered from this for years now, He's not the culprit. Yes, I put myself down and simultaniously put him up... But it's not just him.. I put myself down while I put almost everybody up!

I defiantly didn't address all points, so if I missed something big please ask again! I just wanted to make that clear.

Also, Hamster, saying that I think my boyfriend is perfect is not a bigger issue than my BDD. I've been in pain, everyday, for years. I understand you think my attidude towards it is worse then the disorder causing that attitude. I want to write down exactly what I have to say about that, but I can't it down in words! I hate when my brain doesn't want to connect with my mouth (or hands, in this case).

Anyway! I had to get that out in the open. I haven't bothered to re-read it, so sorry in advance if I made any mistakes or if it sounds harsh. I don't mean it to, and I am thankful for all of your responses. I see where you are coming from, I'm not going to hold your opinions against you. I just didn't mean it like you are portraying it. I really don't appreciate being called 'blind' though. I do take that to offense, I know I didn't choose the best wording but I don't think you should be saying that without proper clarification. I appreciate you trying to help, but I don't appreciate the way you went about it. I could deal with the first part about my wording, I just had to post and clear that up and it would be all good- no hard feelings or anything, you know? But when you made it personal enough to offend me personally, I think that was a bit too far. You mightn't agree with me, maybe no one will. But that's my opinion and that counts for something, right?
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