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LilMissMichael · Jul 26, 2013, 03:39 AM

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Originally Posted by jumpinggrasshopper

That I do understand Hankster, and yes, thinks that seem to good to be true usually aren't, I'm no stranger to that. I'd guess that this is a young couple just starting to feel each other out. I think her main concern is how to tell him and when more so than if she should or shouldn't. That;s just me reading the context tho. Everyone does need to figure out some things the hard way, it sucks but it's the best way to learn. If her bf can't accept her flaws then he isn't right for her, and it's better to come right out with it early on and not wait too long to say something. Sometimes wording can be taken wrong and slightly abrupt. Basically what I mean is there could have been a nicer way to share insight or advice.

Thank you.. although we're not 'just starting to feel each other out' we're a bit past that. When I hear that I think of a new couple that might still be a little bit awkward when it comes to talking and sharing feelings. I don't know if that's what you mean too, but by my definition of that we are past that. We are very open with each other, and we're not a new new couple. It's just that i've only recently got an officialy diagnosis so I didn't mention it before, I didn't want to jump ahead of myself, you know?

You're right about saying it's more of a 'when and how' subject rather than a 'if'. I think he'll be able to accept it, it's more just 'when can I tell him' rather than 'when will he hear it?'. That didn't make sense.. I mean it's just a matter of when will I bring myself to begin that talk. Not because I don't trust him, not because I don't want him to know my secrets or anything. But it's because I need to make sure that I can deal with people knowing.

Thanks again