I don't know if your working but is it possible to do intensive out-patient while working with your therapist? It's probably a good idea to get a marriage counselor at this point. She may want to get a therapist herself.

if you loved me the way you say then you would have began the process years ago I think this is an unfair statement, sorry. I understand how hard it is to deal with a partner that doesn't seem to want or feel they need help. I also understand the difficulty that comes with accepting the dx., asking for help and continuing treatment. I wish it was easier for others to understand.

Was there a particular incident that cause this decision?