*ahem* Your husband is a stupid jerkface *ahem*

Of course you should have told her about it - what's the point in going to see her, only to learn that she's going to be UTTERLY useless to you and drop you like a pin the moment she learned about it? You're saving yourself time AND money.

And she only works two days a week and won't take any communication at all outside of visits? Does she not understand that it's NOT HOW IT WORKS?! And she calls herself a GRIEF counsellor?

Honestly, you've dodged a bullet with that one.

Your husband sounds like he needs to see someone about anger management btw. And possibly someone to talk to about the loss as well. He shouldn't be taking everything out on you like he is.