Rainbow,

I'm glad to see you are working through your feelings in this thread. I think Hankster is onto something here. . .you initially start a post feeling upset with your t, then people respond - sometimes with criticism of your t because they read how hurt you feel. So then you feel upset that your t has been criticized and defend her. But eventually, you get to the place whare you are able to understand your conflicting feelings and make more sense out of the situation (like realizing that different parts of you feel different ways, and realizing that you have been thinking in black and white). To me, this represents progress. You sort of allow the conflicting sides of you to speak -- and then weigh the input of others -- and eventually come to some kind of middle ground.

That doesn't mean that your attachment problems are solved. But it does show some good cognitive work and self-awareness.