RTS, my H and I had a discussion at lunch that made me think of you. I was telling him that I understand that I am the one who has made huge changes in the last few years, and I do feel sometimes that I am being unfair to him to ask him for new things or to meet needs that I did not know I had until recently. He said that he agreed with our MC that it is completely fair and appropriate for me to ask for what I need or want, and H is free to try to give me those things or not. He has a choice and he chooses to try to meet my needs, knowing that I am also trying to meet his.