I am married to a wonderful woman (when she is not in the hypomanic phase) I have talked to her about seeing counseling and getting checked out to see if my suspicions of her being Bipolar are true. She constantly accuses me of cheating and when I try to explain to her I would never even think about cheating on her my love runs deeper than I can explain, she just doesnt listen and is fixated that I am. Even when I try to just let it go and not entertain the idea of her accusations it does not help. When she was in one of her manic phases she swore up and down that I was cheating on her and would leave her for some other woman. She has tried self harm on many occasions told me she would rather die than not be with me but also has said she wants to leave. One day I came home for lunch when it was time to head back to work I kissed her good by said I love you see you after work she kissed back said I love you too see you when you get home. When I came home for the day she was gone it took me a few moments to realize everything was gone except a note saying she wanted a divorce. She ended up going back to her parents meeting a guy starting a relationship with him but once he left she told me not to file the paper work pored her heart out to me wanted to be together. I went to visit for a week great visit we were very happy we made plans for her to come back down in a few months and we would work on things through counseling together. When she found out I was leaving the country for a year she went back into a depressed state that days later turned hypomanic stopped talking to me found a new guy and despite having proof she was having a relationship with this guy she denied everything. Only contact i have received was I will be filing the papers here in due time. But a few scentences later she indicates there is still hope. I know she still loves me. I want to go back up there and try to talk face to face try to save the marriage and not lose the woman I would die for. I dont know what I should do. I was told give her some space and she will calm down but every other time I was there by her side calming her down. What should I do? Any help would be great.