I do not know why you are interested in being with this woman who is abusing your love and trust; she does not sound like a friend, companion, or help-mate. I do not know what illness she does or does not have but only she can get help for it if she wants.

I would file for divorce, not let her call the shots on my own life. She has abused her marriage vows more than once it would appear and I do not see her acting in a way to indicate she is interested in stopping or having the relationship becoming any other than what it is now.