((SlowMoMo)),

I have been in a convoluted situation~ guy I was dating told me he was divorced, but was only legally separated...I found this out after 2 years. Keep posting to get out your feelings and frustrations...I know I talked to everyone about this betrayal, as he went back to his TOXIC wife.

Once you are checking cell phones, it is time to re-evaluate...perhaps you are not ready to do this...but I remember asking ex if he heard from "xwife" and he said no...I knew he was LYING as I had checked his cell prior to asking...I would get upset and angry....Pick up his cell and THROW it down, asking "WHAT IS THIS???". I would just get a DUMB stare. Looking back at how I acted out, I am ashamed of my behavior and he definitely was NOT worth it.

Think about it....they say they "love you", but then lie to your face about communications w/ others?? I have male friends and any guy I date knows this, so they can look @ my phone if they want.

PM me....I know it helps to vent, and tell every little detail.

Kirby