I think being away from each other might not be a bad thing right now. I begged my husband to leave for 6 weeks while I got my head together. He refused. We bargained. He wouldn't leave. A month before that I was so overwhelmed by our problems at the time, I spent 3 weeks away at a women's shelter! I returned and that's when I asked for some space which he refused. It doesn't matter now as our divorce just became final and it was I who served the papers. I believe if he had temporarily left when I asked him to and we had counseling we might have avoided divorce. Try counseling on your own. It might help you sort out confusion. It might help you decide your next move. G-D bless and good luck. BTW you're not being selfish, you are wounded and hurt. Protect yourself above all else.