Thank you, all of you for the insight. I don't doubt that the affair happened at all. I know exactly when it happened. He was on a business trip, and I vividly remember calling him to tell him good night. He never answered and he never called me back which was so unlike him. I was sick with worry that night. I remember it like it was yesterday. His excuse was he never heard his phone, and didn't want to wake me when he got back from a business dinner because it was late. I trusted him so completely that I didn't question it in the least bit. The night he told me about the afair, he cried like I've never seen him cry before. This man does not cry. Yes, I asked him every question I had about the affair. Why? How could you? Who was she? Did you not think about me at all? Were you safe? Why are you telling me this now? His answer to that was he couldn't stand the guilt anymore. That's when I asked him to leave. I already am in therapy for PTSD... He's always been very supportive of me in that regards. Doing everything he can to help. He just always ho-hummed about coming to therapy with me. I now chalk it up to him thinking that the affair would surface and he was petrified of that. I'm going to go with the theory that he is giving me the space I've requested. And that he's waiting for me to let him know when I'm ready for us to work through it. If I'm wrong, and he is just looking for a way out, that will be devastating, but I can't think that way right now. We do not have any kids, and thank God for that. I'd hate for there to be kids in the middle of this. Thanks again, guys, for commenting, and the insight.