I am completely clueless on how to play the dating game. It's just not a skill I ever developed in 35 years of life. now I find myself going on dates and I don't really know what to do or what to expect.

For context, basically my previous relationships with women have gone something like this:

Scenario 1:
1. Go to bar
2. Get drunk enough to hit on women
3. Find woman who is also drunk
4. Sex

-OR-

Scenario 2:
1. Meet woman
2. Ask her out to bar
3. Both get drunk
4. Sex

However, I recently met a woman and have gone on two actual normal dates with her. I mean I guess they are normal dates. I don't know what a normal date is. But basically this was the format for the two dates we have had so far:

Date 1:
1. Go to restaurant
2. Get to know each other and interesting conversation
3. Go to bar after restaurant
4. Not get drunk
5. More interesting conversation and laughing and fun
6. No sex

Date 2:
1. Go play pool together
2. Go to same restaurant as before
3. More interesting conversation
4. Go to different bar than first date
5. Not get drunk
6. Even more interesting and engaging conversation
7. No sex

Basically, she is really fun and intelligent. I really like spending time with her. However, I am terrible at "dating." There doesn't seem to be any sexual tension, though. But also, I am terrible at flirting. I haven't the slightest clue how to do it. If the girl isn't drunk enough to go straight for groping, I really have no idea how to proceed. I can't say that I find her terribly attractive physically, but she's not a bad looking girl, and I really enjoy being with her.

For a third date, I'd kind of like to put us in a situation where something more... romantic might happen just to see if it will. But I don't really know what that situation is and probably won't know how to initiate anything if i were in it.

Basically, I am just clueless on dating and have no idea if these two dates would be considered normal for a lot of people, overly friend-like and not romantic enough, I just don't know.

The first date, I asked her out. Then after that, I didn't contact her for over two weeks even though I had fun. I just didn't know what to ask her to go do or anything and just put it off and then by the time two weeks had passed, I kind of figured she probably wrote me off by that point and had no intention of contacting her again. But then she contacted me to see if I wanted to go out and play pool, so then that was our second date. That was like 4 days ago. I realize the ball is definitely in my court now and I should contact her soon to go out again, but not sure what to do.

Basically, any advice would be helpful because I'm 100% clueless on dating.